Some of the nono's that in a bgr faced
Talked to shu yang this noon..and found out some stuffs. Yeah i know some but from her real life experiences reminded me again.
1) Either partner should never be sticky. Example the girl is facing her exams now, the guy shouldn't really keep calling her everyday for contact. That will make the girl feel that the guy damn sticky and dont know how to prioritise.
2) Either partner should try to be sensitive to each other, if not try to communicate well and solve it. Example, her ex disliked her to hang out with her make friends but the point is her majority of friends are guys. Apparently this continued for quite some time till after the broke up, she took this issue very seriously when considering of patching back.
3) Compatibility issue. Well i hate this word.
Anyway for me it all falls on how long the couple been together in order to find out more of each other but then again in order to have a couple together, there must be some compatibility in it in the first place. So pls don't use "total" incompatibility as an excuse for a break off.
The usual way of meeting your next possible gf/bf
Being friends with each other.
1) Slowly find out each other then it will goes to 2) , 3) or 4)
2)-There are infatuations falling between each other ( The 1st step to a casual relationship)
3)-The guy got a serious infatuation on the girl while of cos, the girl don't know it. All the while the friendship is still on-going. ( The most usual case in a heartbroking scene in korean shows but its true )
4)- Both the girl and guy feels that nahz, jus been friends can liao. That will goes to 5) or 6)
5) After friends for years, that become good friend status for them. ( Yeah, kinda nice seriously)
6) Jus for the sake of saying we are friends, slowly both of them will drift away.. . . . ..
Jeffrey's defination of Casual relationship, there are huggings, kissings etc like in a long relationship.
1)I supp the trick is to treat ur inital partner in the most non-serious way as you still ticking compatibility checkboxes to see whether how compatibility are both of you. That is call having a casual relationship. (mm, i never had a compatibility checkbox list before and i guess i try not to coz seems soo..not like in love but like a bot )
2) After the first step which i think will last like 3 months, both of you should know by now. Add up the ticks and you will see the result !
3) Ok, maybe the male partner sees his result as "wow, so many ticks. that's good..maybe she is the one" while the girl result was totally opp from the guy and she slowly drifted off.Here is how a casual relationship blown off.
Hmm..there is something to think about for this casual relationship status.
How would the guy/girl know that "hey, we are in a casual relationship now" ? Maybe the girl thinks that "I am in a serious relationship" while the guy thinks otherwise..
It would be strange that before going in a casual relationship, both of them would announced " Let's treat this as a casual relationship" It would possibly implies that " this is just a fling, not a serious relationship so don't put too much hope in it.
Hence even before actually going into that relationship, there is already distrust within each other ( if either partner don't really understand the term of casual relationship or the term jus soo not trustworthly ( that's for me ) )
Oh what am i saying now..oh yeah..totally off from the topic !hah..
My good friend joel is facing his worse time in life now, i don't know how to help him. Jus feel sad for him and at the same time, i am sad too.
Some ways to counter in the nono's in a bgr faced
1) Communicate well, tell each other what you are facing now
2) Have a common group of friends ! That's the best possible way i can think. If not, trust her or him..of cos, the girl has to play a part too if she keep acc her guys frens. wouldn't that be kinda weird.
Haiz..its so hard to hao hao tan yi ge lian ai. So many uncertainties and sadness even before a relationship starts
Now there is this song " I can't take my eyes off you " on 93.8. Yeah, a lovely sadness song..I believe that will occur during any infatuations period that a person having.
What a long post..hah..mm its like a flowchart eh..lol
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Yeah its april now. Looking forward for this month !
1) Job !
2) Studies for the future, time to make a decision
3) Concentrate on training my ankle !
4) Muggy on my online cert and that investor seminars ! heh..
5) Wanna goo ecp bike le..not that expressway ! To missie, when ya free ?
Naruto @ Monday, April 02, 2007
ramens with extra chili sauce~yumms.
